7 Tips on how to get motivated and feel unstuck & feel your best in 2021

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Do you feel like your world is becoming sluggish? Do you think you need extra motivation, and becoming dry in your personality and/or character?
Are you wanting more self/personal development happening in your life?
feeling demotivated? inactive? Flat? Lifeless? Slack?

All these things mean you could be coming stagnant. I don’t know about you, but I have been lately, and it is something that I don’t want, or even need!

I thought I would write Seven tips on how to get motivated and feel your best.

Here is 7 tips to get yourself motivated daily or weekly to perform your best.

Let’s start with productivity.

1. Clean up your desk space. 

Bring out your pretty stationary, stapler, paper clips etc and maybe buy a print on Etsy and frame that would be a nice decoration on your writing desk. Wipe your computer screen. Clean your keyboard. Clean your laptop. Change your desktop wallpaper to something pretty. Get a small vase and some fake flowers and put it beside your computer. Organise your papers and pens and put them in their proper place. E.G. pen holder, paper trays etc.

2. Read a motivational book. 

I could list a NUMBER of books that could help in this arena. 

Read something like an inspiring story. I bought “Seize the day” by Joyce Meyer and it was something that I badly wanted to get because it was to do with purpose. When I felt I was becoming stagnant I realised it’s because I don’t have much purpose. And that’s what I need. 

Here is a list of books to get you motivated:

Think like a monk

Girl, stop apologising – Rachel Hollis

Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance – Angela Duckworth

Key to Success: How to Be Successful and the Habits of Successful People

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck – Mark Manson

You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life – Jen Sincero

Big Magic: How to Live a Creative Life, and Let Go of Your Fear – Elizabeth Gilbert

Reading motivational books is so fulfilling and rewarding for your mind and general health and wealth. It abundantly gives you gems and sparks of words that appeal to the brain when reading. When I see a quote that pops out at me, I always have to share it on my Instagram Exquisite Emmalisa page or Emmalisa Tilli page. It also keeps you progressing and advancing. I don’t know about you, but having to read personal development books is what keeps me going in life, and self-growth is so important, and having those quotes and/or statements are what makes you endure life. 

3. Write a To-Do List. 

The best thing for productivity is to write a to do list, or even write a plan of the day. That is what I try my best to do almost every day to keep my mind and life on track. 

For example, it may look like this:

  • Finish Assignment 7, question 4
  • Read my book The Mind Gut Connection 
  • Call (family/friend)
  • Appointment/s for the day
  • Work on blog post
  • Type 1000 words for current book project

That is an example of what my day looks like. This is a daily example of mine, and is what I am doing for today, and I create a box, so that it is easier to get tasks done, so that I look at it, and see what has been done and what’s not.

Writing lists creates an efficient and effective day, and I am sure that is the most inspiring thing that everyone wants to do!

4. Eat Healthy

Make sure you are feeling your body and nourishing it with wholesome foods. Too much take away and Uber Eats can actually affect your mood and overall health. I recently started ordering Uber Eats three times a week or more, and I got a blood test and the results were that my cholesterol was way too high at 7.2. To lessen this I started to make a salad with cabbage in as it apparently lowers cholesterol. I highly recommend reading The Mind Gut Connection by Emeran Mayer. I have just started it and it is a brilliant read on how our mental state is affected by our gut health. It is almost like having two brains. The way you fuel and feed your body and gut/stomach affects your main brain in your head. So, once you have started eating healthy it generally lifts up your mood. One thing I find is that smoothies can refresh your body as well. My most top blog post is Sweet Sunday Smoothie

5. Do some calming meditation

I highly recommend this app called “Calm”. It has many sleep stories and is great for the brain when resting. There are other apps you can use for meditation, and you can simply just go onto YouTube and look up tutorials on:

Yoga

Pilates

Daily Mindfulness Meditation

10 minute meditation for anxiety

Things like this really help for those that struggle to keep a balance through out the day. I think its good to switch off technology and social media for 10-20 minutes DAILY if you want to be successful in life. You’re not going to become successful in productivity and/or being your best if you sit on your bum scrolling through Facebook and Instagram all day. Yes, they’re put there as a platform for connection and social connection/social networking/forums, but if you want to be successful you do have to learn to switch off at some point as it gives you rest and helps you refresh the/your mind. So that you can move onto better accomplishments.

6. Post your achievements on social media once you’re done!

I think that this is a FABULOUS idea. When I received my Certificate III in Library and Information Services in the post, I posted it on Facebook and I had so many people saying congratulations, it felt like I really did do something rewarding after I decided to post it on social media! I felt like I had REALLY achieved something great, and it was a good feeling. the process of the course took longer than expected but I pushed through, and the end result was amazing! I really did feel proud of myself and I will be doing this when I have my song on Spotify on the 9th July 2021. When Mood to Party is released I will be posting on Facebook for all my wonderful friends to see!!!!! and I am sure that will give me a proud feeling. If you have completed a short course, diploma or university course, share it. Instagram and Facebook are great platforms for that. and if you have done something like get your L’s or your P’s/drivers license, share it with the world! Be proud and look how far you have come and achieved. 

7. Lastly, Take a walk

I did this just yesterday at Hyde Park in Perth Western Australia, and it was the best feeling. You will notice I stopped by a greenery structured area on my Instagram page, and I decided to wear a summery dress in the middle of winter. I wanted to bring some sunshine into my life!!! It was sunny outside even after it rained, and decided to go to Hyde Park, grab a skinny weak latte and nibble on a jam donut (whilst getting swooped by a duck that stole the rest….). Taking a walk does wonders for your mental health. it brings clarity, focus and stability. Your mind feels so much better when doing so and increases your cardiovascular fitness. and your heart rate which improves your heart health. It assists you with maintaining a healthy weight and lowers any risk of disease. So! Doing this can do so much for your general and overall well being. I highly recommend you take a walk at least once to twice a week if you can and bonus if you can do it three to four times a week! You will be fit and on your way to more happiness if you do! I used to be great at walking especially on the treadmill at the gym, but I must say I haven’t exercised like I should the past few years compared to when I was in my 20’s. 

I hope you find these things helpful and that you enjoyed reading. Please have a look at the list of books to read, and make sure you jot them down for resources and you can highlight and write notes when reading to help further your personal development / self – growth. 

Change and consistency is key. If you don’t change anything in your life you will always become stagnant, and dry. So, try change things up a bit! Take a vacation….. Then do your hard work. and stop procrastinating. You’re not alone in this, as millions of people around the world go through stagnancy, and motivating yourself is knowing yourself. what things keep you on your toes and continue on with creativity, and purpose. 

I am currently writing a christian personal development / self-help/development book in which I have done 14,000 words and I am SO happy that I thought I would share that achievement on the blog! There! That’s ONE way to share!

So I hope you take these seven things and use them for inspiration. And out what inspires you the MOST! and go with it. Start small, and build on that. Don’t forget, inspiration is key for getting rid of a stagnant life, and knowing what inspires you whether its creative or whatever. Do that thing. Figure it out. Write down a plan. a daily planner or a weekly planner/to do list, and you’ll do great!!!

P.S. Someone recently today gave me some great advice and said the following:

“Don’t compare yourself to others, whether it would be lifestyle or personality. We are each unique, and should embrace that.”

Love Emmalisa ❤

How to live a successful life 


 

What does success mean to you?

How would you define it in your way of words?

Do you measure it by the goals you attain?

Is it what you have? Is it buying your first home? A car?

The definition of “success” is a “favourable outcome”. It is something you complete and a goal that is reached.

We all want to be successful in something. We all dream it. I know that when and if I do complete a Certificate in Library Studies, that will be a “success” for me! When you finish something with an inward happiness in heart, I believe that that is what success is.

If I reach the VISION that I set out in my About Page – that would be a success for me personally. My desire is to reach out to young girls all over Australia, and even other countries. I even received great feedback from a fan in Pakistan!

Everyone wants to be successful at something. It’s naturally a human thing!

I want to be successful in studies, (future and past) work, home, personal development and any other thing in life. Striving for or seeking to achieve things in life is my top priority, and I want to share with you some top bonus tips.

At the start of this blog I asked some very important questions.

If you answered these then that’s great! You are on your way to identifying your passions and understanding what it is that you really want to do!

1. Make lists

Make a list of your short term and long term goals. Write all your past and future goals down so you have something to strive for in your week, day, month!

I’m a huge list maker, and I love using sticky notes with everything I do. Sometimes I write down what I need to do for the next day and tick them off the following day to make myself feel like I have accomplished something.

2. Educate yourself

Read up on your passions. If you love cooking I’m sure the first thing you google is recipes! So whatever your passion is, google about it!!!!

Gaining knowledge in your area is the best thing you can do. Like for fitness, you learn all the muscles in the body, what the best supplements are and vitamins you need to take daily and what is the best protein shake to have to trim yourself up!

Learning is the best way to achieve anything in life.

3. Live in the moment

My advice is to hold dear to the time you’ve got! Live with purpose and excitement! Focus on every bit of goodness that you can’t remember the last negative comment that someone said!!! Live each and every day as if it is your last. So, appreciate the beauty in every activity of every second of every single day.

Continue reading “How to live a successful life “

Inspirational Quotes to live by


“Every woman deserves the chance to realise her God given potential.”

Life skills is quality. Education is attaining. As women, we have to realise our full potential and need to strive for superiority and excellency. If we utilise our mental ability and engage within our communities, we can do more and above and beyond than what we ever dreamed of.

 

“You have to be true to yourself.

You have to be enough in touch with who you are and what you want, how you want to live and what’s important to you, to make your decisions based on that.”

Always aim high, work hard, and care deeply about what you believe in. And, when you stumble, keep faith. And when you’re knocked down, get right back up and never listen to anyone who says you can’t or shouldn’t go on.”

Hilary Clinton

Continue reading “Inspirational Quotes to live by”

Staying true to yourself


I have recently been thinking a lot about what and how young girls think and do and act to fit in a world of boys, friendship, and closeness of peers.

I don’t know everything that goes on in the world, because I lived a pretty sheltered life myself, but I have a heart to reach out to girls that go through either cyber-bullying, peer pressure, and fights that go on in a circle of friends.

I like to stick to basics, and sticking to basics is the best way to go if you want to lead a simple, care – free life.

My top priority in staying true to myself is to:

 

  • Be a lady of quality

 

Continue reading “Staying true to yourself”

LIFE


One thing I have been thinking about today is that – “Life is so very precious”. We can be here one moment and then gone the next. I lost a best friend when I was about 12-13 years of age to a car accident, and it was the worst feeling I had ever been through….. I cried for days, and had a lump in my throat for the whole duration from being in such an emotional state. I also lost my granny around the same year as well. So I understand how precious life can really be. 

Sometimes we can be sooo caught up with “life” that we don’t even ‘experience’ life!!!!!

What does LIFE mean to you?


Is it about the car you drive? The clothes you wear?

Your education? Qualifications? Work?

Is it about how much money you earn?

We can sometimes get so caught up in the physical that we don’t look at the spiritual. 

You say, what does that mean? 

I mean, stop worrying about what you look like, or how you sound and start spreading some love to the people around you.

Love?

It doesn’t have to be the kissy poo-poo kind of affection, it can mean you can just start smiling kindly to people you walk past down the street, or bake a cake for your neighbour. You may have just made their day! – you never know!!!! Or buy some flowers randomly for a close friend! People love it when you are thoughtful, and especially kind. Kindness definitely goes a long way and is a beautiful trait to have.


If you follow me on Instagram, you may have noticed that I recently hand wrote a bible scripture.

“Clothe yourself with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience”


This is one of my favourite scriptures, and I think it is vital to hold these qualities if you want a peaceful heart. Maybe start reading the New King James Bible, and get together some Proverbs that you like, and write them on some pretty cards. Or use them for scrapbooking or card-making projects!

I also like this quote:

“Live each day, as it is a precious gift, because it is.”

I think we need a fresh new perspective daily on life, and we need to pull ourselves together and make an effort when it comes to friendships and relationships. 

Also, Passion is a key ingredient to the study and practice of life. 

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Elle Woods, (Legally Blonde) 

It is with passion, courage of conviction, strong sense of self that we take our next steps into the world. 

Have faith in people, and most importantly have faith in yourself. 

Have a look at this TO DO LIST! I ❤️ it!!!!


Maybe you can step back and have a look at your own life and write your OWN to do list!!! There are so many things we can change inwardly AND outwardly. When we write things down we have a clear note of what we need to do to live greatly. 

I don’t know about you, but I want to do AMAZING things with my life!!!!! And live a hopeful, fulfilled, inspirational life. 

What things can you do to succeed this? 


So, think about what you can do to live a life of fulfilment. I think that if you have a life filled with love then you are definitely on the road to success. 

Think this weekend about what things exactly you can do to love others, and share things with friends. There are a ton of things you can do to live a life of purpose.

I don’t just have a dream. I have a VISION and a purpose!!!

The word “vision” is profound, as without a vision there is no purpose and things don’t succeed as well. Have a vision with anything you do in life. For example, I have a vision for my blog.

“To create a platform for ladies to find inspiration and pull thoughts, ideas and advice together whether it’s beauty, fashion or reading.”

 I may have more than one! 

To me, vision is a BIG thing and I hope you find a vision for your life, business or work. 


Create a VISION BOARD

PUT THOUGHTS, JOURNALS AND QUOTES ALL IN ONE


It will keep you inspired with your work, business, blog, writing, or whatever you do!!! 

So venture out and write down everything on a A3 peice of paper and visualise everything and write down your accomplishments. It will get you started,….. With LIFE!!!

❤️🎀❤️

Exquisite Emmalisa 

Some tips on Staying positive at work


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1. Keep learning

Just because you are not at high school anymore, doesn’t mean that you have to stop learning. Learning is the key role to fill your position and On-the-job education is the best way to build up your resume. You need to “learn on the job” to get as much experience out of it, and focus on educating yourself in the long run. For example, even though I am not working I have been borrowing books at the library about London to keep me occupied. I am studying something out of passion.

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2. Teach others what you know – I don’t know about most people, but I get joy from helping others with things that I know. For example, I worked in administration, and would know how to do things an accountant or lawyer might not even know!! Even if someone is higher up in a company, there are little things they might not even know!!!! I am currently volunteering at the local christian bookshop, and an elderly lady that worked there did not even know how to use a magnet book mark!!!

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Doing things like this would keep me happy in a company for sure!!! When you know something, it keeps you happy.

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I decided to share this as it was a discussion post that I put up on my Library Studies course. I figured it could help those trying to work in an environment of positivity at work… and it is nice to share my thoughts on something that people want to know as well.

The main thing is to keep happy! Even if it is hard, try and have an attitude that people strive for! Being happy is a successful thing in itself, and is the most important thing in life!

Well, I hope those two points have helped someone at least. I just wanted to share what my thoughts were on the subject.

Now, back to “Writing a job application” process on my ‘Guide to responding to selection criteria’! I am very excited to be doing this course……… It has been keeping me on my toes and busier than ever, thank goodness! I missed having a busy life! haha!

xx

Exquisite Emmalisa

Inspirational Blog Book Idea


    What do I LOVE to do? What are my passions?

What leads me to fulfilment?

These are questions I ALWAYS ask myself. I have always been the type to think about things that leave me feeling satisfied in life, and have a sense of achievement or excellency.

I want to create a life filled with LOTS of passion!!! Where I can talk to people about what I love to do! 

I have many first loves! Coffee, shopping & reading – which are probably the main three things of my life! And now! Writing! I had my first EVER article published in the local community paper, The Pheonix last Friday and bought it just today to see what it was like! 

   
I lived in Melbourne, Australia for 18 years of my life, so I have created my own sense of style, personality, and I loved my life when I was living there. Living in the suburb of Footscray, it was filled with diversity and I loved eating Chinese food mostly! 

Moving to Merriden in 2013 changed me. I had a massive culture shock and I honestly didn’t get used to it till now! TWO years later!!! 

I told a friend today that Merriden has changed me….. She responded with “HOW did it change you?” And I replied with this. 

“Very good question! Because big city girls CAN be quite superficial/fake…. Not all…. And I’m not saying I was like that, I just don’t find having the latest Burberry coat to the latest Gucci bag is as important as having family and friends around you!”

What do you think of this statement I made? Is my theory too harsh? If you’re a city girl, is there something in your heart that needs to change? Appreciate life a bit more? 

Maybe have a think about your soul…… 

I am loving a book I bought in Melbourne….. “Too beautiful” Beauty Tips for the Soul ❤️❤️❤️

    
It has so much TRUTH in it! And has beautiful quotes that make you reflect on life and what your soul needs to live a life of beauty. 

A beautiful soul is better than a beautiful face!

It has beautiful quotes such as this! 

   

Wisdom is better than pearls or gold. It is a quality that a lady needs to get through her day. Understanding is precious as well. Understanding people and what they go through in life is an amazing quality to have. 

Is wisdom something you want? 

Understanding?

I wanted these words to be a book as I hand wrote them, but I am thinking maybe one day I can create a “Blog Book”! Filled with quotes, writings, images and such in a book similar to “Love, Style, Life as I mentioned in Best Book Investment …. ❤️

I feel like, if I move back to Melbourne I will be HIT with inspiration because it is so full of fashion, great people, amazing art and culture and I can go to the L’Oreal Fashion Week which I totally miss! 

Melbourne IS Fashion. Collins street was my home….. And I worked on Queen Street when I was 18 in my first job as a Claims Assistant at Gallagher Bassett Services, after a year it didn’t work out, but I remember with my first pay I bought a CUE outfit! And I still have it to this day! Cue was my favourite brand for a VERY long time! I shopped there on Collins street everyday when I was 18-20 years of age! 

Being in Merriden it changed me because there is literally, only Target!!! It took me ages to adapt to just 1 to 3 shops! 

I shall leave you with another quote from the book, and have a think about what you can do to create a “beautiful soul”…..

Do you want to organise charity work? For example, I am currently looking at maybe hosting a morning tea with Cancer Council here in Merriden! 

Is there something you can involve yourself in to help out with your community? 

  
Kindness is also another beautiful quality to have a pleasing heart. 

Think about what you can do this week, where you can use wisdom or kindness! 

What can you do to free your soul?

                             ❤️ 

              Exquisite Emmalisa 

Books & Blogging


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I admire people who write books!!!

It’s not an easy task….. Storylines, plots, characters, settings, there is sooooo much you need to invest in to get a great story happening.

As I have mentioned before, my favourite book so far is “The Governess of Highland Hall” by Carrie Turansky. She is an eloquent writer and I JUST finished “A Refuge at Highland Hall“, where the main characters were different to the first! I eagerly read on to find out how the friendship between Penny and Alex unfolded. I loved how they wrote to each other with such warm regards. It was a very heart warming kind of read and the picture of it is on the blog, My Book Collection. The ending was satisfying and it just finished off so well and exactly how I liked it! It left me feeling giddy and romantic on the inside!!!

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I have decided to move onto “Jane Eyre” by Charlotte Bronte which is also mentioned in my previous blog on books.

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I always remember the start how she curled up behind the curtain sitting by the window reading a book because I can so relate to that! Hiding away from the world and getting caught up in a world of fantasy and intrigue. It is what I do mostly with my time. Apart from shopping and drinking coffee, book reading is my first love!

I have so much more I want to add to the list but I think 20 books a year is enough to keep you going. What I have listed are a great collection and I think it will keep me busy which is what I want. I love keeping busy, and reading and writing are on TOP of the list. I’m a lover of the Good Reads app which keeps everything shelved and in the right piles. My granny was a writer, so if I could follow in her footsteps and be anything like her I would feel successful. She married a Western Australian author, Donald Stuart and he wrote a number of books which were mainly to do with farms, aboriginal heritage and such. It is very Australian!

I am enjoying Season Six of Downton Abbey and am stoked about a few of the scenes so far! Because I am in Australia I am up to Episode 5 and won’t see it till next Monday!!!

Now, I have created a “What to buy list” and NUMBER ONE is a book called “Not by Sight” by Kate Breslin. It is apparently set in World War II and was inspired by Season 2 of Downton Abbey. I can’t WAIT to buy this book!!!! I came across it on Carrie Turansky’s website. She has a blog as well and recommends books that are similar to hers and in the same time period. You can sign up to her newsletter and get updated with what she is doing regarding her blog, and novel writing. Well, you can do that with BOTH authors!!

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So, I decided to google the word “blog” and there was an informative definition on Wikipedia, but what got me the most was that it can be seen as a social networking service. When I think about it, I love the idea that I can build social relations with my readers and even other bloggers!!! Such as my favourite bloggers that I mentioned on “My TOP 10 Favourite Bloggers“.

I could not believe my eyes when I saw “937” followers and I still can not believe it TODAY. I never thought I would be doing something as fulfilling as this. Even if I don’t get comments, 937 people are “special” to me and I hope I can produce even BETTER content in the NEXT post!!! I hope YOU are enjoying reading my blog! YOU are why I keep on going, and I have not had as much fun in my life!!! I see my blog posts as more personal rather than business minded. Although, I would LOVE the idea of creating it as a business! Who’s to know what will eventually happen!!!! Writing for a magazine would be fun! and there are plenty of dream jobs out there. I like the idea of branding and creating something out of my name, ‘Exquisite Emmalisa’. I’m full of creative ideas and want to put it into good use. Whether I have a lot of followers or not, my goal is to create a space where I can convey my thoughts and ideas or creations into one whole diary.

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When I was a teenager I was BIG on journaling and I feel as an adult now, that this is in replacement for that! I can share with you my creative ideas and thoughts on fashion, travel, beauty and everything else about life!!!! I love conversing about motivational books as well, and motivational quotes speak to me to help me in certain times.

With this blog I did something different to every other blog I posted. I handwrote it. When typing, things come flooding to me but it feels that when you hand write it, it is more intimate when writing it by pen. I am sure a lot of people would agree with me, that writing it down yourself makes it more personal. I could go on and on, but the main thing is that I wanted to post something more on an intimate level now that I know how many people are following.

I think it can be a big responsibility and that you have to be accountable for what you say and do when you have a big following, but like I said “how many followers is not important“, it is what you do for yourself that counts, and I take responsibility to everything that I write on here.

I have borrowed two books from the library, “How to be a writer” – Building your creative skills through practice and play” by Barabaa Baig and “Creative Web Writing” by Jane Dorner. If you are new to blogging, I suggest that you go to the library, – what better place to start!! and go through the “Arts” section. You never know, you could be well on your way to writing a bestseller. I went to do a Proofreading and Editing course in Melbourne with Australian Colleges, and completed all tutorials, but lost the last assignment in the post, so never got the qualification. I have all the tutorials, and know exactly what I did. So maybe a course like that is for you! Now that I have done it, I have more of an eye for editing, and grammar. I love correcting work, but not sure about having it as an actual job!! It used to be a dream job to me…. but my pathway is probably going in a different direction now.

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Find a book in the library that you like. I know that they say “Don’t judge a book by it’s cover”, but I am a sucker for covers, if something is really pretty and has an excellent title to go with it, I grab it!!!! My eyes light up like a Christmas tree when I see a new Sophie Kinsella book come out!

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So, happy reading, and enjoy life as a blogger/writer…. Or whatever YOU do.

I’ll tell you now, this is on my list now, “London’s Afternoon Teas”. It looks exquisite and an excellent guide to venues in the heart of London. I want to get this for when I GO there!!! and I still CAN NOT wait!!!!

LONDONS AFTERNOON TEA

 

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What was the last book you read?

How many books are you reading this year?

Can you share a favourite book of yours?